Giving and receiving seems like an easy concept to grasp in life and that many of us do naturally. We have all 
heard its better to give than receive. Or that you will receive once you give enough. But what if you aren’t receiving?
I have had many women around me recently, whether it be friends, clients, mothers or health practitioners recognize that they are giving and giving and they aren’t receiving. They are giving themselves to their work, friends, patients, sick parents, children and on and on. And wow, are they tired. Dragging really.
There is something in feminine nature that says “give yourself over to others” like it is our duty. Something that is in us and feels like it always has been, through generations. But somehow, getting something in return can get lost.
So, the type of receiving I am talking about is not really about getting “something”. Its about allowing yourself to receive a break, a hug, forgiveness, love…whatever it is that you are not letting into your life because you are too busy being the I-have-to-do-everything woman.
Stop playing the martyr.
Stop being too tough to let in kindness.
Stop trying so hard at the work you are doing and just be.
Receive whatever your body or spirit needs to get right now.
It is hard. Many of us don’t even realize we are doing this. But you are, trust me. I see it every day. So, I am here to tell you that it is okay to stop giving (doing) for a little bit and just receive. And if it is something specific you want— ask for it. My guess is that you might not even know what it is you want because you are too dang busy giving yourself away to everyone.
Here, I will quote Madonna, “A lot of people are afraid to say what they want. That’s why they don’t get what they want.” Well go for it. What is holding you back? Not sure? Look up at the list above (martyr? too tough?…)
Ladies, be kind to yourself. You need it. Forgive yourself for not being perfect; none of us are. Give yourself a hug if no one is around…it still feels good. Let yourself receive…your body will thank you for it. And then your giving will be so much better when it comes from a more centered place.
