Why do we go around judging the people around us? We all have played the judge game at one time or another.
“Look at what that woman is wearing; can you believe she thinks that looks good?”
“That guy is such an idiot…I can’t work with him.”
Judging a person doesn’t define who they are— it creates a false identity that is separate from you.
When you call someone a name or put a label on them (ugly, b*tch, dumb, jerk) you are saying “they are not like me”. You are pushing them as far away from you as possible because you don’t want to believe that you are one in the same. It may see from the outside that this person is different than you. They might look different or behave differently than you ever would. But that doesn’t make one better than the other. That doesn’t mean one should be classified as a term that you label them.
If you look at it from another perspective, I am sure we have all been called some negative word before by a person we knew slightly and I am sure it didn’t feel that good. You could have had a bad day, some issues going on in your life, pile of stress, etc and so you probably don’t think it is fair to label you for whatever your circumstances were. You are not a {insert bad word here} for life. It is not WHO you are. So, why try to label someone else in the same way?
We can’t possibly know everyones stories; why they act the way they do, why they look one way or another. But instead of labeling someone for being different from you— I challenge you to be curious about them. Wonder why they are the way they are— maybe you can find some really fascinating information about this person and start to have some compassion for how they got to where they are.
We are all just human; trying to live our lives the best we can. If we could just be a bit more curious with life instead of instantly judging someone, I think it might be a bit more interesting and definitely a lot kinder. So try it…be curious.
